I think a simple question to ask oneself to determine if they are asexual or not is "would you rather have your favorite dessert or sex?".

Does anyone agree?

Samael Morningstar said:
"would you rather have your favorite dessert or sex?"

Anyone who would answer 'dessert' has not had the good sexings yet, I would answer.

@Samael_Morningstar: I think it's a loooooot more complicated than that.

@Samael_Morningstar:

It takes two people to have good sex, yet only one to have bad sex.

And for those who believe I am speaking of masturbation, I will again say they have not had the good sexings yet.

@Samael_Morningstar:
Any monkey can fuck; it takes someone who cares about their partner to ensure they are getting not only what they want, but also what they need.

Settling for any less, and I can see how a person could answer 'dessert'.