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I am bisexual but I have never laid with a man. I never met any men I liked enough. I prefer futa women to men in furry porn so maybe I'm not 100% gay just 75% gay. 80%?
Anyway, men who have been with men and women... were the men kinder to you? Did they treat you better?
Good people will treat you better than bad people, gender has nothing to do with it.
A thread asking to generalize the sexes and evaluate which one is better... Surely this couldn't cause drama... See Bird-TM's comment. It's the right answer. I don't exactly have sexual/romantic experience, but I don't need to to know the answer.
Okay, who hurt OP?
Jokes aside, I've both dated and slept with women, but I've only just slept with other men, so unfortunately I have no personal experience to give. As I'm aware, men tend to understand and interact with men well, as is the same with women and other women. This could lead to more open and natural communication. And because gay men have a smaller dating pool, the ones interested in romance tend to have a fair amount of desperation, which often leads to doting on their partner. Lastly, there would be a notable lack of other tensions due to various factors:
-Men can't have unwanted pregnancies
-(while there are, of course, cases of violence and SA between gay partners as well) One party isn't notably liable to put the other on the back of a milk carton
-There are no negative, preexisting stereotypes or societal obligations to cause unrest. "Does she just want me for my money?", "Does he just want me for my body?", etc. Each relationship is perceived as a new, unclassifiable event that's personal to both members.
With that being established, it's probably natural to feel as though one would be consistently treated more warmly, or be in a more healthy environment in a gay relationship. But it's not some "way out" from one's own, personal struggles with the dating game. It's unfortunate that, upon reflection, you may perceived yourself as having been treated poorly by women you had dealings with, but (in the vast majority of places in the world) you're going to start being treated a lot more poorly from effectively everyone else if it's found out you're romantic with another male. Moreover, porn is a far, far cry from reality, and it's hard to imagine "girly futa furry porn"-liking OP, who's not even sure "how gay he is" to begin with, would exactly have a fun time pressed against, you know, an actual man. Liking furry cartoons and having bad prior dating experience is probably one of the utmost worst reasons to hop on Grindr, with the ideal reason being "I like men and want a cock up my ass"
Short answer no, expecting all people to be the same is like living in a fairy tale. If anything the world has witnessed more violence from men then women.
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Okay, who hurt OP?Jokes aside, I've both dated and slept with women, but I've only just slept with other men, so unfortunately I have no personal experience to give. As I'm aware, men tend to understand and interact with men well, as is the same with women and other women. This could lead to more open and natural communication. And because gay men have a smaller dating pool, the ones interested in romance tend to have a fair amount of desperation, which often leads to doting on their partner. Lastly, there would be a notable lack of other tensions due to various factors:
-Men can't have unwanted pregnancies
-(while there are, of course, cases of violence and SA between gay partners as well) One party isn't notably liable to put the other on the back of a milk carton
-There are no negative, preexisting stereotypes or societal obligations to cause unrest. "Does she just want me for my money?", "Does he just want me for my body?", etc. Each relationship is perceived as a new, unclassifiable event that's personal to both members.With that being established, it's probably natural to feel as though one would be consistently treated more warmly, or be in a more healthy environment in a gay relationship. But it's not some "way out" from one's own, personal struggles with the dating game. It's unfortunate that, upon reflection, you may perceived yourself as having been treated poorly by women you had dealings with, but (in the vast majority of places in the world) you're going to start being treated a lot more poorly from effectively everyone else if it's found out you're romantic with another male. Moreover, porn is a far, far cry from reality, and it's hard to imagine "girly futa furry porn"-liking OP, who's not even sure "how gay he is" to begin with, would exactly have a fun time pressed against, you know, an actual man. Liking furry cartoons and having bad prior dating experience is probably one of the utmost worst reasons to hop on Grindr, with the ideal reason being "I like men and want a cock up my ass"
I've never been wronged by a man in a relationship but I feel if I hear good stories from men who dated men I might feel more open to try dating men.
redphoenix42 said:
I've never been wronged by a man in a relationship but I feel if I hear good stories from men who dated men I might feel more open to try dating men.
Again, you are just generalizing all men.
If you want to be in a relationship, you've gotta understand that their gender doesn't play a role on if they're a good person at all. For example, my dad, very much only male, was a complete ass. My grandfather (on my mother's side) also male, one of the best people I've ever known. The same goes for women too.
Take the time to get to know someone, and you'll figure out the motivations behind folks, why they are the way they are. That is how you figure out if they're a good match for you – and not by assuming guys are more X or Y than women, and vice versa.
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bird-tm said:
Good people will treat you better than bad people, gender has nothing to do with it.
crocogator said:
A thread asking to generalize the sexes and evaluate which one is better... Surely this couldn't cause drama... See Bird-TM's comment. It's the right answer. I don't exactly have sexual/romantic experience, but I don't need to to know the answer.
Dude isn't asking for idealism, he's asking for anecdotes. I'd say that's not such a bad thing to ask, but let's be real... you usually aren't going to find a lot of people with a wide breadth of experiences on a furry porn forum. Higher than average bisexuality? Sure.
orangeleaf said:
Dude isn't asking for idealism, he's asking for anecdotes. I'd say that's not such a bad thing to ask, but let's be real... you usually aren't going to find a lot of people with a wide breadth of experiences on a furry porn forum. Higher than average bisexuality? Sure.
And why are they asking that?
redphoenix42 said:
I've never been wronged by a man in a relationship but I feel if I hear good stories from men who dated men I might feel more open to try dating men.
Considering the motivation, I find the response of "just find someone you feel will treat you well" a valid one.
orangeleaf said:
Dude isn't asking for idealism, he's asking for anecdotes. I'd say that's not such a bad thing to ask, but let's be real... you usually aren't going to find a lot of people with a wide breadth of experiences on a furry porn forum. Higher than average bisexuality? Sure.
and people don't want to provide anecdotes, because anecdotes will do what anecdotes do: provide a warped perception of a data set.
if someone was like: "Well, the last woman I was with let me borrow her truck and drove out to Louisiana with me to pick up the baby grand piano willed to me by my great uncle and then helped me move it up 30 flights of stairs and into my studio apartment. The last man I was with stabbed me and took my dog." what useful, actionable information could you possibly glean from that?
orangeleaf said:
Dude isn't asking for idealism, he's asking for anecdotes. I'd say that's not such a bad thing to ask, but let's be real... you usually aren't going to find a lot of people with a wide breadth of experiences on a furry porn forum. Higher than average bisexuality? Sure.
Hi. I've been in relationships with a guy, a lady, and someone who is nonbinary. Assumptions are bad to have about groups of people, because oftentimes they're either misinformed, harmful, or just outright wrong.
In the same vein, anecdotes about general groups of people often lead to presumptions/assumptions about said group, and when you are trying to have a relationship with someone, the last thing you want to do is assume that they are or aren't something, based on their sex/gender. No one is perfect, and everyone's gonna have different stories and feelings about relationships.
