Are they worth it, or is it better to try meeting people only irl?

yeeeagler said:
Are they worth it, or is it better to try meeting people only irl?

I wanna know as a virgin cuz lonely is not fun

Weird place to ask.

That said, dating sites quite literally have a financial incentive for you to remain single, and using their site.

votp said:
Weird place to ask.

That said, dating sites quite literally have a financial incentive for you to remain single, and using their site.

lmao

that said i am a clueless virgin who is antisocial and realized he wants to be a bit of an extrovert

I had been using dating apps for 15 years. My answer: hell no.

If you're an honest guy, you'll have no luck with any women on them. I've tried all of top ones, including Tinder. As of the last few years, they have become overrun by catfishers, scammers and fake profiles. Some local women I found on one of them have very high expectations to where it feels borderline crazy.

I've landed a few dates in my early 20s, but after my previous date at 24, I got either ghosted or completely ignored. I think you'll have a much better chance of finding an authentic person in real life. If it feels difficult for you to meet someone, try reaching out to someone you trust for some help.

lonewolf36 said:
I had been using dating apps for 15 years. My answer: hell no.

If you're an honest guy, you'll have no luck with any women on them. I've tried all of top ones, including Tinder. As of the last few years, they have become overrun by catfishers, scammers and fake profiles. Some local women I found on one of them have very high expectations to where it feels borderline crazy.

I've landed a few dates in my early 20s, but after my previous date at 24, I got either ghosted or completely ignored. I think you'll have a much better chance of finding an authentic person in real life. If it feels difficult for you to meet someone, try reaching out to someone you trust for some help.

thx and i am never using dating apps since that hell happened to you

yeeeagler said:
thx and i am never using dating apps since that hell happened to you

Yeah it's not worth it. It has been slowly destroying my mental health

You can even research it on youtube.

lonewolf36 said:
Yeah it's not worth it. It has been slowly destroying my mental health

oh no... hope u can recover from shitty ass jerks and asshole design (using that phrase from a subreddit)

yeeeagler said:
oh no... hope u can recover from shitty ass jerks and asshole design (using that phrase from a subreddit)

Oh and I've even tried the virginr4r subreddit when I had a profile there. It's the same spiel

lonewolf36 said:
Oh and I've even tried the virginr4r subreddit when I had a profile there. It's the same spiel

i do funni subreddits and wholesome ones, i wouldnt know

I use AI for a long time so I know how AI can generate pictures and text. They may fool you with fake profile pretty easy with such technology and AI can roleplay not bad.

yetanotheraiuser said:
I use AI for a long time so I know how AI can generate pictures and text. They may fool you with fake profile pretty easy with such technology and AI can roleplay not bad.

First of all, I already decided, secondly, ew

yetanotheraiuser said:
I use AI for a long time so I know how AI can generate pictures and text. They may fool you with fake profile pretty easy with such technology and AI can roleplay not bad.

I came across so many of them over the years, that it was easy to spot. However, they seem to be getting more tricky to spot now.

Romantic relationships sound very scary and undesirable to my avoidant ass, so I'll probably never touch a dating app. Maybe Fetlife someday if I get brave, which some would describe as a dating site, but the site goes out of their way to claim they're simply social media for kinky people and not a dating site. Anyways, from what I hear on the interwebz, actual dating apps sound like a scam. According to some random app developer on Reddit (or rather, totally "not" a developer that's totally not violating NDA), the dating app they worked on has a secret hidden variable that determines how dateable you are, and if it gets too low, your best bet is to make a new account. No idea if that's how other dating apps work.

Then again, I think my sister got her boyfriend via dating app. It was going well for quite a while, until she discovered he was a sociopath and running a scam as a side hustle... Then she was like "go back to the state you came from, and if you ever return to this state, we're calling the authorities" and then got a new boyfriend, presumably via dating app.

crocogator said:
Romantic relationships sound very scary and undesirable to my avoidant ass, so I'll probably never touch a dating app. Maybe Fetlife someday if I get brave, which some would describe as a dating site, but the site goes out of their way to claim they're simply social media for kinky people and not a dating site. Anyways, from what I hear on the interwebz, actual dating apps sound like a scam. According to some random app developer on Reddit (or rather, totally "not" a developer that's totally not violating NDA), the dating app they worked on has a secret hidden variable that determines how dateable you are, and if it gets too low, your best bet is to make a new account. No idea if that's how other dating apps work.

Then again, I think my sister got her boyfriend via dating app. It was going well for quite a while, until she discovered he was a sociopath and running a scam as a side hustle... Then she was like "go back to the state you came from, and if you ever return to this state, we're calling the authorities" and then got a new boyfriend, presumably via dating app.

I've always yearned for a romantic relationship, but I have pretty bad social anxiety that prevents me from even trying.

These days I think you have much better luck at a hobby club, or gym or somewhere you meet a lot of people you share an interest with, I think shared interest and freetime hobbies really get the ball rolling both with friendships and romantic relationships.

The longest lasting relationships aren't often foumder on Tinder I think.

My wife and I met through a dating site

Not gonna lie
It was tough finding someone to have a consistent conversation with
And that was pushing 10 years ago

My opinion is probably bias but I would say it isn’t a waste of time

Once I downloaded a dating app, first person to contact me sent me as a greeting a barely coherent message describing how he wanted to have sex with me. I laughed at the message, sreenshotted it, sent it to my friends and then deleted the app. I have had much better luck with finding partners through hobbies.

They could be worth it but it's definitely not for everyone. If you are bit shy, too honest about yourself or don't have the charisma stats maxed (meaning that the language of love is foreign), you may find yourself being ghosted.
That's at least my experience, I don't hate the players but the game sucks.

crocogator said:
Anyways, from what I hear on the interwebz, actual dating apps sound like a scam. According to some random app developer on Reddit (or rather, totally "not" a developer that's totally not violating NDA), the dating app they worked on has a secret hidden variable that determines how dateable you are, and if it gets too low, your best bet is to make a new account. No idea if that's how other dating apps work.

I heard the same and I've seen experiments that confirm it. If you looks perfect you are shown to a lot of people, if you look non-desirable you are linked with very few profiles, more distances ones and less-desirable ones. It gives to more people the general aspect that there are more desirable profiles on the website than there is.

Then again, I think my sister got her boyfriend via dating app. It was going well for quite a while, until she discovered he was a sociopath and running a scam as a side hustle... Then she was like "go back to the state you came from, and if you ever return to this state, we're calling the authorities" and then got a new boyfriend, presumably via dating app.

There is also a very very strong advantages given to women. This one is a lot clearer than being categorized as good or bad. Every female profile gets more and betters profiles than men, to the point that even using a landscape as picture profile (and no other picture) is really better than being a men.
There are more men than woman. It's why women are advantaged. They got choice and because of it their men are selected.
The result on this is so wild that I even wonder how many real women are using those app ? Do they stay only a few days or weeks ? (while we stay for years)
Women finding someone (or immediately quitting after rude messages), and men finding no one is a loop of getting women leaving and men staying.

Sorry for your sister to didn't find the perfect one, the app couldn't know everything even if it help a lot more women than men.

For women, it can be useful. Just don't lose too much time to evaluate based on text and see instead how the person is in real life.
For men : just run away. Pure lost of time.

mikael_the_d said:
For women, it can be useful. Just don't lose too much time to evaluate based on text and see instead how the person is in real life.
For men : just run away. Pure lost of time.

Pretty much this. They worked fairly well for guys back in the 1990-2000s.

Now, all the women seem to be looking for that perfect set of 6's...which is about 1 in 7000? There's a lot of miss when you're a guy.