I've realized I have fallen into a rabbit hole trying to fix some of my mistakes and fear that I will end up digging myself into hole I can't get out of if I didn't make this forum post (if i haven't already) there are two tags that I made involved with this rabbit hole, violence focus and gore focus.
here is how the rabbit hole goes: as "gore focus" got bigger, I noticed that a good amount of violence adult content isn't gory yet they were still upsetting users and getting down voted as a result. so I made "violence focus" for violent content that has no visible gore. I then noticed that uploader's didn't seem to know which tag to use for their art, so I re-tagged some art work and rewrote both of their wikis in a failed attempt to clear things up.
In summary, I tried to help out but instead I only made things worse.
A tag for gory and/or violence adult content is needed to help users find or filter out content like this and to reduce the amount of unfair down votes this kind of content often gets, its the same reasons why e621 has a tag for rape.
That said, I clearly lost whatever direction I was originally trying to go with these tags, so it's time for me to step back and let other people takeover, to give fresh ideas on how to tag and manage violence adult content.
I sure it going to be make lot more sense without me making things convoluted.
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